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I hate dating.
Let me be more clear — I like the act of going on a date. I like spending a little more time on my appearance and getting a little more dressed up than I would if I was just walking down the street to the Chick-fil-A. Going out and about on my own is fine and I do it often — but going out and about on a date with the guarantee of attractive male attention is definitely an added bonus.
But, I hate the mind games that go along with dating — when you start to get more serious or have feelings for the other person. But then you catch the feelings and things can sometimes get less fun.
Which is why, the best person to catch feelings for is someone who is consistent. In other relationships or dating situations where I felt anxious or worried, the common denominator was that the person was not treating me or behaving in a consistent way. This led to a lot of miscommunication, confusion, and unpredictability.
It means that you can trust them to treat you consistently. Consistency is a character trait that is indicative of trustworthiness and reliability — two things that are cornerstones of any successful relationship. One of my relationships — The Relationshipthe Big Kahuna, the one that blew up in my face and threw me into a depression blender and liquefied my feelings — the dynamite in that relationship was that my partner was wildly inconsistent. It was an emotional rollercoaster in which I had no control and no platform to voice my needs or opinions.
I blamed myself for the demise of that relationship for a very long time, when in fact the only mistake I had made was loving someone who was unable and unwilling to love me back. And, someone who was not stable, reliable, or consistent. I promised myself that my next partner would be someone I could rely on. Someone I could trust to be consistent. Some might say that always knowing what to expect would get boring and would take the magic out of a relationship, stripping it of its spontaneous moments.
Consistency means mental and emotional safety for both partners. His radio silence is a result of his busy life, or of his not being a texter, and has no relation to his feelings for me whatsoever. That kind of comfort and knowing what to expect puts my mind at ease in a way that modern day casual dating practices do not. Nowadays, you can get ghosted for any reason, or no reason. So if you hate the nuances of modern dating like me, try looking for a partner who demonstrates consistent behavior. in. Felicia C. Want a Stress-Free Dating Life?
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